Helladay vs Holiday: Surviving the Season After Divorce

"If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one." – Dolly Parton

If you’re staring down the holiday calendar and already feel tight in your chest… I see you.

Not every season sparkles — especially not after divorce.

One of the hardest parts of this chapter?

It’s not the big, blow-up moments.

It’s the quiet grief of what used to be — and the emotional tap dance you now have to perform around custody schedules, shared time, and holiday logistics that make your head spin.

We don't talk enough about the emotional whiplash of post-divorce holidays:

• The missed mornings

• The guilt for celebrating late

• The silence after the kids leave

• The ache of being “the other day” in your child’s memory

Even when things are amicable, they can still feel hollow.

Even when you're “fine,” it can still sting.

You’re not bitter.

You’re just someone who wants to feel peace, not pressure.

Meaning, not performance.

This week’s blog doesn’t sugarcoat the hard — it names it. And it offers you something softer to stand on.

Your Turn

Take a breath and ask yourself:

• What does a “real” holiday look like for me this year — not a perfect one?

• What traditions (or expectations) might I release to make space for peace?

Hit reply and share it with me — I love hearing your reflections. You can also join me over on Instagram where we’re keeping it cozy, candid, and compassionate.

Even if the world is shouting “holiday,” your soul gets to decide what’s worth honouring.

And sometimes that’s laughter in pyjamas, a quiet day alone, or celebrating on a Tuesday.

Your peace matters more than the traditions.

In your corner,

Helping women navigate divorce with courage, clarity, and new beginnings.

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