So You Lost It on Your Ex. Now What?

"You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending." – C.S. Lewis

You meant to stay calm. You tried to stay calm.

But then something tipped.

A comment. A lie. The same old fight. A tone that hit your nervous system like a gut punch. And before you could stop yourself, it happened.

You. Lost. It.

Maybe it was a text you shouldn't have sent.

Maybe it was yelling in the driveway when you swore you’d never go there again.

Maybe it was in front of the kids. Gawd forbid.

Now you’re sitting in the aftershock, wondering if you’ve undone everything you’ve worked so hard to rebuild.

That shaky inner voice whispers:

“Did I just make things worse?”

“Am I back at square one?”

“Will they use this against me forever?”

Here’s what I want you to hear loud and clear: A single messy moment doesn’t rewrite your whole story. It reminds you of what still needs tending to.

This week’s blog walks through what it really means to come back from a reaction you regret, and how to reset the narrative with dignity, even if your ex won’t let it go.

I share the story of a client who cracked under pressure, dropped the F-bomb (3X), and thought she’d torched her chances at peaceful co-parenting.

She hadn’t. And neither have you.

Inside, you’ll get:

• Real talk about shame, ego, and emotional gutters

• Validation for the why behind your blow-up (hint: you’re not a monster... you’re maxed out)

• A clear way to reset (whether your ex is cooperative or chronically chaotic)

There’s even a section for those navigating narcissistic dynamics (because that’s a whole other ball 'o wax).

Your Turn

Take a quiet moment and ask yourself:

• What’s one moment I’ve been holding over my own head (and am I ready to put it down)?

• If I believed I was still worthy of peace, how would I show up today?

Hit reply and share it with me, or come join me on Instagram, where we get into this stuff in real time.

This healing journey? It’s messy.

You will crack. You will curse. You will cry in your car.

But grace isn’t for the perfect... It’s for the human. And you, love, are still in the process of becoming.

Still worthy. Still capable. Still the one holding the pen.

And in the next edition: AI as Divorce Sanity Support.

In your corner,

Helping women navigate divorce with courage, clarity, and new beginnings.

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